words that should not be spoken to the child
Have and raise the baby has its own art. Moreover, observers said the child, there are no special schools to become parents. Quite often, we are confident of being able to raise the baby by himself. Apparently, not that easy. Starting from day-to-day communication, child development can be disrupted. Well, the father and mother, there are words which should not ask you for your beloved baby. What is it?
“Go away! I want to be alone! “
When you often throw these words in children, Suzette Haden Elgin, Ozark Center founder, said the children would think of no use to talk to their parents because they are always thrown out. “If you’re used to saying things that the children since they are small, usually they’ll say the same thing as adults.”
“You was …”
Labeling the child is a shortcut to change the children. If a mother says, “My child is shy”, then the child will swallow just label it without asking anything. Moreover, if we give a bad label on children, that’s what will stick in their minds. Lifetime.
“Do not cry”
Or, similar words like, “Do not be whiny” or “merely cry”. In fact, for children who have not been able to express emotions through words, they can only be channeled by way of crying. Is reasonable, when children feel sad or scared. “Actually, it is only natural when a parent wants to protect their children from those feelings. But, by saying “no” does not mean the kids would be better. “It will also give the impression that their emotions are not true, that is not good to feel scared or sad,” said Debbie Glasser, director of Family Support Services.
Instead, tell your child that you understand the feelings of grief that he experienced. “I understand you are afraid of the waves. Mother promise not to let your hands again … “
“Why do not you be like your brother?”
“Look, Doni really neat buttoning his shirt. Why you can not? “ Experts say natural parents compare their children. This will be a reference to the development of children. But, please, do not say this in front of children. This is because each individual child is different. They have a personality of its own. Comparing children with others means you want your child to become a different person.